Seven years ago, I was high-functioning on the outside and unraveling on the inside.

I left my marriage not because of one big moment, but because of a thousand small ones that slowly erased who I was. I’d learned to be the strong one, the easy one, the woman who never needed anything. I adapted. I shrank. I became so good at surviving that I forgot how to live.

Then, just as I thought I was rebuilding, I was laid off from my executive nonprofit job—the role I believed made me safe, valuable, secure. Gone in an instant.

I was a single mom to Madison and Damian, working multiple jobs, crying in the shower because it was the only private place left. Everyone said, “You just need rest,” or “Try yoga.” But rest didn’t touch it. Yoga didn’t touch it.

What I needed wasn’t more self-care.

I needed to understand my nervous system.

So I did the work.

I combined my B.S. in Psychology and M.A. in Adult Learning & Development with trauma-informed coaching certifications (CPD Certified & IPHM Accredited) and became an NLP Master Practitioner. I studied nervous system regulation, complex trauma, and somatics—not to become an expert, but to understand myself. And then to help other women understand themselves, too.

That’s how the Spiral framework was born.

It gave language to what I’d been living:
Ashes – numb survival.
Ember – a spark of awareness that offers three choices.
Flame – a nurtured clarifying fire.
Rise – alignment that feels like coming home—until the spiral begins again.

This work is for women who look fine and feel nothing.

For the ones called “strong” while they’re exhausted.

For the high-functioning women no one worries about.

You don’t need fixing.
You need understanding.

Change isn’t linear.

It’s a spiral—and learning how to move through it changes everything.