
You're not broken.
You're not beyond help.
You're just navigating without a map.
In 6 weeks, you'll learn to identify where you are in your nervous system, what actually works in that state, and how to move through it instead of getting stuck. No more fighting yourself.
No more tools that don't fit. Just clarity, momentum, and a version of you that finally makes sense.


You've been white-knuckling this by yourself long enough. This is six weeks of actual support—not another course you won't finish, not another app you'll forget about. Real guidance, real time, with someone who gets it.
What's included:
Weekly 1:1 Coaching (1 hour per week) We go deep on each nervous system state—where you are, what's actually happening, and how to move through it without fighting yourself.
Walkie-Talkie Access via Voxer (10 hours per week) You don't need to wait until our next session. Voice me. I'm here.
Premier Access to the Spiral App (6 weeks) Track your states, access tools that match where you actually are, and finally have a map for what you're navigating.
Feeling numb, disconnected, or like you're just going through the motions?
Trying every tool, book, and technique but nothing actually sticks?
Snapping at the people you love and then drowning in shame about it?
Looking "fine" on the outside while falling apart on the inside?
Wondering if you'll ever feel like yourself again—or if you even know who that is anymore?
You're not broken. You're not beyond help. You're just navigating without a map.
It's time to stop fighting your nervous system and start working with it.
Hi, I'm Lauren
Know this: You're not broken. You're just spiraling without a map.
I spent years looking like I had it all together while feeling completely numb inside. I tried everything—therapy, books, podcasts, all the "right" tools—and nothing worked. Not because the tools were bad, but because I didn't know what state my nervous system was actually in.
That's when I developed the Spiral Framework—a way to identify where you are (Ashes, Ember, Flame, or Rise) and what actually helps you move through it. No more forcing tools that don't fit. No more fighting yourself.
Now I help women who lost themselves in relational trauma figure out who they are now, show up fully in their lives, and live with purpose.
You don't have to keep doing this alone.


"...I felt so lost. Finally, things make sense. Thank you, Lauren, from the bottom of my heart."
Rachel T.
"I just want to keep reading what you gave me over and over again. It's like I got new words and language out of my feelings/experiences from it."
Savannah P.
"I've been on my 'healing' journey for over a year. Now, I'm growing every day. Thank you for your expertise."
Yara J.
Tell me a little about where you are right now. I'll follow up personally to see if this is the right fit.
💜 Lauren

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