Phoenix Rising
Come Back to the You Hiding Beneath Your Survival State
This is your nervous system’s safe place — finally.
A self-paced, lifetime-access app based experience that teaches you how to understand your states, soften survival patterns, regulate without burnout, and rise through the Spiral again and again…
You go at your pace.
Your body leads.
And you never have to “start over” again.
30-day. No Questions. Money Back. Guaranteed.
Meet Nova — Your Personal Nervous System Support Coach
Nova is your 24/7, always-on AI companion inside Phoenix Rising.
She’s trained in the Spiral Framework, nervous system science, and trauma-informed language — so she knows how to support you when your mind goes blank, your body gets loud, or you’re trying to figure out “What state am I in right now?”
Nova can help you:
understand what your body is doing
soften survival patterns without shame
move through the Spiral with less confusion
find words when yours disappear
feel supported every time life gets loud
A Safe Place for Your Nervous System — Not Another “Healing Program”
You’re not here because you’re broken.
You’re here because your nervous system has been in survival mode for way too long — and no amount of journaling, mindset work, or “just breathe” advice ever touched the real issue.
Phoenix Rising gives you something different:
a self-paced, lifetime-access nervous system experience that helps you understand your States, soften old survival patterns, and rise through the Spiral again and again… without burning out or starting over.
Because your body deserves support — not pressure.
Nervous system–focused practices that meet you where you are
24/7 AI support from Nova, your nervous system companion
A safe space to learn your patterns without shame
Lifetime access so you can return every time the Spiral comes back around
Why Phoenix Rising?
Because you’ve tried everything else — therapy, mindset work, journaling, medication tweaks — and nothing actually changed your state long-term.
Not because you’re broken.
Because traditional tools never taught you what your nervous system was doing.
Built from lived experience
A nervous-system-first framework
No forced forgiveness. No toxic positivity.
Nervous System Practices That Meet You Where You Are
Techniques that work with your current State — not against it.
No generic grounding. No “just breathe.” Only tools your system can actually use.
Your Pace, Your Timeline
Not daily. Not linear.
Use Phoenix Rising whenever you hit the Ashes, the freeze, the collapse, or the “why am I like this again?” moments.
Lifetime access. Zero pressure.
State-Based Guidance
Trauma-informed support that helps you understand
“What state am I in right now?”
and what your body needs at this stage — without shame, force, or overwhelm.
The Phoenix Spiral Framework
The only nervous system model that honors the real pattern:
You rise, you fall, you rise again — and every time, you rise faster.
Not failure. Pattern. Predictable. Repatternable.
What women say after trying everything else
I need to thank you for even making this. It’s the first thing that’s helped me understand my trauma and depression in a way that actually makes sense. I’m finally seeing why I get stuck — and how to move again.
"Shelly"
I tried therapy, EMDR, the hospital, medication — everything. And still felt broken. This was the first time someone explained my trauma in a way that made my brain stop blaming itself. I finally have the words for what’s happening to me.
"Lisa"
I’m in the middle of some really heavy trauma work right now. This is the only thing that doesn’t overwhelm me. The daily pieces help me move through it without collapsing or shutting down. I actually feel supported — like I’m not doing this alone.
"Amber"
Inside Phoenix Rising:
Nervous System Practices
Bite-size practices your overwhelmed system can actually respond to
No forcing, no “power through,” no shame
Designed to soften patterns without burnout
Private Community
Connect with women who actually get it
Share breakthroughs, ask questions, build safe relationships
No toxic positivity — just real, regulated support
The Phoenix Path Framework
The Ashes — acknowledgment without collapse
The Ember — awareness without shame
The Flame — reclamation without overwhelm
The Rise — integration that sticks
(Move through the Spiral again and again — at your pace, not a timeline.)
Bonus Resources
State-by-state guidance when you’re spiraling or stuck
Extra nervous system tools + prompt collections
Mini-lessons to deepen your repatterning
Nova - 24/7 AI Support Coach
Stuck at 2am? Nova knows what state you’re in
Ask questions, get guidance, and process in real time
It’s like having a trauma-informed guide in your pocket
Lifetime Access
Come back whenever you hit the ashes again
Your journey isn’t linear — and your access shouldn’t be either
Future updates included (your nervous system deserves ongoing support)
Who I Am (and Why I Built This)
I’m Lauren Tobey — and three years ago, I was you.
High-functioning on the outside. Falling apart on the inside.
Post-divorce, jobless, single mom in a pandemic, crying in the shower because it was the only place no one could hear me.
Everyone said, “You just need rest.”
But I didn’t need rest.
I needed to understand what my nervous system was actually doing.
So I got certified as a trauma-informed coach (CPD & IPHM), pulled from my degrees in psychology and adult learning, combined it with lived experience, and built the roadmap I desperately needed back then.
Not from a textbook.
From the ashes.
I have a phoenix feather tattooed on my foot with the words: “Because of you, I will not fail.”
It was a promise to my kids that I would rise.
Now it’s a promise I make to you too.
You’re not broken.
You’re not too far gone.
And you’re not late — your nervous system is right on time.
—💜 Lauren
